Nigerian preacher and marriage counsellor Funke Felix-Adejumo has advised married men against exhausting themselves in a bid to satisfy their wives, insisting that no man can completely please a woman.
Speaking at the Recharge Conference, Felix-Adejumo urged husbands to remain committed to their responsibilities at home while avoiding unnecessary pressure that could affect their health and well-being.
“Listen to me very, very carefully. Do everything, but don’t kill yourself. Married men, hear me. I’m a woman speaking to you now. There is nobody that can please a woman,” she said.
Explaining her point, she noted that women naturally seek improvement and change, citing common beauty practices as examples.
“The Almighty God gave us nails; we cut them and attach another one. God gave us eyebrows; we shave them off and draw another one. God gave us hair; we remove it and wear another. If the Almighty God cannot completely please us, who are you that wants to please us?” she asked.
She encouraged men to simply give their best in marriage rather than striving for perfection.
“Don’t die. Do your best,” she advised.
Turning to women, the preacher urged wives to pursue financial independence instead of relying entirely on their husbands for financial support.
“Don’t let the money you have be only sexually transmitted money. Have your own income so that whatever your husband gives you becomes an addition,” she said.
Referencing the biblical story of Esther, Felix-Adejumo challenged women to create their own wealth and even surprise their spouses with expensive gifts.
“In Esther Chapter 2, they gave her her own. Where is yours now? Who says you cannot surprise your husband with a Prado?” she said.
Sharing a personal example, she revealed, “When my husband turned 60, I gave him 61 gifts.”
She concluded by encouraging women to become financially empowered, saying their lives should not revolve around waiting for their husbands to provide.
“Your life should not depend on ‘until daddy comes.’ We have moved beyond that level,” she said.
